Friday, October 8, 2004

Would you get re-engaged to someone who broke off your engagement?

A friend of mine, let’s call her “E”, got engaged to her boyfriend of 3 years this past December. I think they were engaged for less than 2 months before he broke it off with hardly an explanation. As it turns out, her fiancé, “Y,” met someone and started dating this new someone. E, of course, was broken-hearted, furious, and depressed all at the same time. She was sort of “lost” for a few months before she got better. She moved on though, and got back into the swing of things. Recently, I found out that E got “re-engaged” to her ex-fiance. I asked how that came about. She said they started dating again about 2 months ago and that he “re-proposed” about 2 weeks ago. She said that Y dated the new chick for about 6 months, but for all that time they kept running into each other. Y’s relationship did not work out, and eventually, he realized the errors of his ways. After the new relationship ended, he realized what an ass-wipe he was and that he was wrong in breaking of the relationship. He said that running into E all that time was “like a sign from God that they were meant to be.” E stated she didn’t want anything to do with him but he persisted and they started dating. After spending time with each other again, they got re-engaged.

I think it’s great that they are back together. I’m happy for her and the fact that they have reconciled. I know she still loves him for all that time they separated and didn’t really date anyone else. Obviously, E knows Y best; she’s smart and can make her own decisions in life. Coming from an outsider’s point-of-view, however, I think she would be wise to hold off and not make the decision of marrying this person right away. I mean, I know for a fact that Y was a complete ass to her right after the break-up. I was told that once, E called him about picking up his stuff, and he said to her over the phone “Oh I can’t talk right now. The girl I’m with is sleeping next to me and I don’t want to wake her up.” C’mon! What kind of ass would say that?! In addition, the way they broke up was just pathetic. He called her on the phone with no explanation whatsoever, and only said “I want something more.” He called her a day after they had just spent the whole day together. He couldn’t even do it in person! To me, this indicates a mean-ish streak in this guy. It also indicates that this guy may not be sure of what wants. If Y feels he needed “something more” and felt like he was “settling” only for E, then why even propose in the first place? Also, E shouldn’t be “settling” for Y because she deserves the very best. She can certainly have her pick of men! However, like I said before, E knows Y better than I do. I just hope the best for them both. Really, I’m glad that they got a “happy ending” of sorts, and I hope it works out. So please don’t get me wrong E, I’m happy for you, but I’m only worried because I care.

Something in the back of my mind…

I’ve had something gnawing at the back of my mind for the longest time now and I just wish I can talk to someone about it. It’s a little hard to explain, but I feel like there’s something missing in my life. I have nothing to complain about in my life right now, but if I’m so happy, then why am I looking for something else? Something I know I can’t have without disrupting everything that I’ve got going for me? Should I just live with the fact that I’ll always be wondering about it (because I could, I guess), or just break the rules and do it (knowing the consequences)?? All I know is that it might be a passing phase. I just wish it passed permanently and not keep coming back. Oh well.

Have a great weekend folks!
POSTED BY KAT AT 10/08/2004 11:47:00 AM |


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