Ghosts of Ex's Past. I may be seeing an ex of mine. In particular, my highschool bf. We went out for a considerable amount of time. 4 and a half years I think. The last time I saw him was in March/April 1996 --I think. Can't really remember. But I know it was before my junior year college. I went to L.A. on the way to Hawaii and stopped by to see him. It was weird and uncomfortable. There was still some tension going on. Then last time I spoke to him was in September 2001. He called after 9/11 to check up on me. I haven't kept in touch with him at all. I am close to his younger sister (who incidentally named her baby after me) though. We keep in touch but we don't talk about anything but her life. I was pretty close to their family in general, but our ties died as time went on. It happens. Here's the kicker though: I recently got the idea of going to The Cure's concert in Los Angeles (where he lives, where I used to live). And I thought why not go with him? After all, he was the one who introduced me to their music, and it would be like coming full circle since I went to my first Cure concert in L.A. So I asked his sister if she thought it would be cool to ask him --since we haven't spoken in 3 years, I didn't know if he even wanted to hear from me. Well she said it was most likely cool since he didn't hate me, however, his current GF might be mad. The plot thickens: I didn't know of this new GF, and I certainly don't want to step on anyone's toes. So I said, I'd invite BOTH of them to see The Cure w/ me. That's where it stands at the moment. He hasn't said yes or no nor have we had a conversation. This is all through a third party. Would seeing him again be a bad idea? Perhaps. I mean, why not leave well enough alone, right? Do I want to suddenly catch up with him again? Could I just be dredging up some old baggage? Of course. But I think of it this way: I'm older now, he's older now, we can all be civil to each other. It's not like it was a bad break-up. I do consider him a friend. I think it would be nice just to catch up as friends. We'll see if he even says yes. Bottom line is I want to see my all-time favorite band with a person who appreciates them as much as I do. I asked the hubs if it was cool with him for me to potentially see my ex and watch a concert with him. He said it was cool. He said it was fine. I'd like to think so.