Do I like NJ? Sometimes. I like the fact that it's spacious (e.g., apartments aren't on top of each other; houses aren't on top of each other); the big supermarkets; no tax on clothing; how some areas are very beautiful and picturesque; how some streets are kinda like the city w/ shops and cafes; and how poeple aren't as rushed and it's a slower pace of life in general.
I don't like the fact that people make fun of where I live and don't make an effort to visit b/c they think it's too far; how people ask "why don't you want to live in the city?" (do I have to get into this?); how some friends of mine stop keeping in touch b/c I don't live in the city anymore and I'm the one who has to arrange dinners/get-together; I don't like how I have to drive everywhere and I get bloody lost!!; I don't like the fact that it's very suburban and homogenous (some areas); and I don't like how people express their disdain for NJ w/o ever having lived there. Lastly, I don't like the fact that just because I live in NJ now, some people have a pre-conceived notion that I'm this domesticated, non-cultured, suburban Jersey girl because I'm not.
I live here in NJ now, and will most likely buy a house here because of 1 main reason: 1) because the hubs is insistent on it and doesn't want to live in NY. So I have to compromise. It's not the bad. I wouldn't knock it before you try it. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. One thing I ask is please don't say "Why are you living there?!" or "I would never live there! I hate NJ!" Unless you want my bloody fist up your nose or a swift kick in the arse.